Time and Our Relationship to It: Slowing Down to Speed Up—The Productivity Paradox
“Sometimes you need to slow down to go fast.”
Time has become a defining measure of our success. In modern professional settings, time is commodified, measured, and optimised to fit the ever-increasing productivity demand. However, what we often need to acknowledge is that this relentless pressure to maximise output comes at a significant cost. In many ways, our relationship with time has become distorted, with the fear of "falling behind" fueling a chronic state of stress and anxiety.
Hartmut Rosa’s theory of social acceleration illustrates how modernity has driven us into a state of "time poverty," despite the many technological advancements designed to save time, professionals feel more pressed for time than ever (Rosa, 2013). This acceleration doesn’t just affect our schedules but also impacts our well-being, cognitive functioning, and emotional resilience.
In this article, we will explore why this hyper-focus on productivity persists and how it is deeply intertwined with our biological survival instincts. More importantly, we will examine the role of the nervous system in perpetuating overwork and stress, and how embracing Human Design and unstructured time can shift us towards a healthier, more balanced relationship with time. We’ll also consider how, paradoxically, slowing down can increase our long-term productivity and creativity by allowing our bodies and minds the space they need to thrive.
The Evolutionary Drive for More: Why We Always Seek More Time
Our obsession with productivity is not merely a cultural phenomenon—it is rooted in evolutionary biology. For early humans, survival required constant vigilance and activity. The fight or flight response was essential for detecting and responding to immediate threats, whether from predators or environmental dangers. This response, regulated by the sympathetic nervous system, ensured that the body could mobilise resources—adrenaline, heightened alertness, and increased heart rate—to address these threats effectively (Sapolsky, 2004).
In today’s world, the external threats that once justified this state of alertness have been replaced by modern stressors: tight deadlines, competitive work environments, financial pressures, and societal expectations. Although these stressors are not life-threatening, the body continues to react as if they were, perpetuating a chronic state of allostatic load. As Bruce McEwen (2007) explains, allostatic load represents the cumulative burden of chronic stress on the body and brain. Over time, this overload wears down the body, resulting in physical illness, emotional burnout, and cognitive impairment.
The Link Between Evolution and Modern Productivity The evolutionary drive for more—whether it was more food, more security, or more social standing—helped humans survive and thrive in environments where resources were scarce. Today, this drive manifests in the professional world as a constant push for more achievement, more success, and more output. But the environment has changed; we no longer need to gather food for survival in the same way, yet our nervous system remains wired to seek and strive as if our very existence depended on it.
The concept of the hedonic treadmill, as discussed by Daniel Kahneman (2011) in Thinking, Fast and Slow, highlights how humans are wired to quickly adapt to new levels of success or wealth. Once a new goal is achieved, it becomes the new baseline, and the drive to seek more is reactivated. This explains why many professionals, no matter how much they achieve, feel a constant need for more and find it difficult to slow down and reflect on what they have already accomplished.
This insatiable drive to always seek more is exacerbated by societal structures that reward over-productivity. From early schooling to the corporate world, we are taught that success is a measure of how much we can accomplish in the shortest amount of time. However, as McEwen’s research suggests, this constant striving without adequate rest and recovery leads to a state of chronic stress that erodes both physical health and mental clarity (McEwen, 2007).
Why We Fear Slowing Down: The Productivity Trap
For many professionals, the idea of slowing down feels not only counterproductive but frightening. The belief that slowing down will result in lost opportunities, decreased competitiveness, or reduced value is pervasive. This fear is deeply rooted in both societal conditioning and the physiological functioning of the nervous system. When we operate in a high-stress, fast-paced environment, the sympathetic nervous system becomes the dominant mode of operation, keeping the body in a state of hypervigilance, ready to respond to any perceived threat (Sapolsky, 2004).
But why does this fear persist even when the external pressures of survival are no longer present? One reason is that the fight or flight response has become normalised in professional environments, especially where high stakes are involved. Functioning in this state—where adrenaline and cortisol drive productivity—can feel efficient in the short term, but over time, it depletes our physical and emotional reserves.
Functioning Fight or Flight: The Hidden Cost of Over-Productivity
"Functioning fight or flight" refers to the chronic state of over-activation of the sympathetic nervous system, where individuals can continue to perform and meet deadlines, but at the expense of their long-term well-being. This state of constant stress is often excused or even celebrated in high-achieving environments. After all, if tasks are getting done and success is being achieved, why stop?
The problem with this mentality is that it overlooks the long-term consequences of chronic stress. As Robert Sapolsky (2004) explains, the continuous release of stress hormones like cortisol wears down the immune system, disrupts sleep, and impairs cognitive functioning. Over time, the body becomes less able to regulate itself, leading to burnout, fatigue, and emotional instability.
Daniel Goleman (1995) expands on this in Emotional Intelligence, where he highlights how chronic stress impacts the prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain responsible for decision-making, creativity, and emotional regulation. In the short term, individuals may feel they are still functioning well, but over time, their ability to think clearly, innovate, and manage emotions is significantly impaired. The quality of their work diminishes, and the sense of fulfilment that should accompany success is replaced by exhaustion and anxiety.
The Dangers of Normalising Over-Productivity In many professional environments, over-productivity has been normalised. High achievers are often praised for their ability to push through long hours, juggle multiple projects, and meet impossible deadlines. But what is often overlooked is the hidden cost of this constant striving. The focus on external success blinds us to the internal damage that is accumulating—stress-induced illnesses, emotional detachment, and the erosion of creativity and joy.
Gabor Maté (2004), in When the Body Says No, argues that chronic stress not only leads to physical illness but also disconnects us from our emotional needs. Over time, this disconnection creates a profound sense of dissatisfaction, even in the face of outward success. Professionals may continue to meet their goals, but the joy of achievement is lost, replaced by a sense of emptiness and burnout.
The Role of the Nervous System: Understanding the Fight or Flight Response
To fully understand why the productivity trap is so pervasive, it’s essential to examine the role of the autonomic nervous system. The autonomic nervous system is divided into two branches: the sympathetic (fight or flight) and the parasympathetic (rest and digest). The sympathetic nervous system is activated in moments of stress or danger, preparing the body to take immediate action by increasing heart rate, redirecting blood flow, and suppressing non-essential functions like digestion (Porges, 2011).
This response is crucial for short-term survival, but when it becomes the default mode of operation, as is often the case in high-pressure environments, it leads to a state of autonomic overload. Over time, the body loses its ability to engage the parasympathetic system, which is responsible for recovery, healing, and relaxation. This imbalance leaves individuals stuck in a cycle of constant stress, with little opportunity for rest or recovery (Porges, 2011).
The Polyvagal Theory and the Role of the Vagus Nerve as discussed in Dr. Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory provides valuable insights into how the nervous system can be regulated. According to Porges (2011), the vagus nerve plays a crucial role in the transition between sympathetic and parasympathetic states. When the vagus nerve is activated, it signals to the body that it is safe to relax, allowing the parasympathetic system to take over and promote rest, digestion, and recovery. However, in individuals who experience chronic stress, the vagus nerve becomes less responsive, making it difficult for the body to shift out of fight or flight mode and into a state of relaxation.
This is why high achievers often find it difficult to "turn off" after work. Their nervous systems have become accustomed to functioning in a state of alertness, and the vagus nerve has lost its ability to facilitate the transition to rest and digest. This dysregulation of the nervous system not only impacts physical health but also diminishes emotional resilience and cognitive flexibility, making it harder to deal with stressors and challenges.
Understanding the role of the vagus nerve and the autonomic nervous system in regulating stress is essential for breaking free from the productivity trap. By engaging in practices that activate the parasympathetic system—such as deep breathing, mindfulness, and savouring—professionals can begin to rewire their nervous systems and create a more balanced relationship with time and productivity.
The Power of Unstructured Time: Creating Space for Creativity and Problem-Solving
One of the most effective antidotes to the chronic stress of functioning fight or flight is unstructured time. Unstructured time refers to periods where the brain is not focused on a specific task or goal, allowing it to enter the default mode network (DMN). This network is responsible for integrating memories, emotions, and experiences, and it is activated during rest, daydreaming, and reflection (Christoff et al., 2009).
The DMN plays a critical role in creative thinking and problem-solving. When we are constantly engaged in goal-directed work, the brain suppresses the DMN, limiting our ability to think outside the box or generate new ideas. This is why many professionals find that their most innovative ideas come not during periods of intense focus but during moments of relaxation—while taking a walk, showering, or simply sitting quietly.
Research on the Default Mode Network and Creativity Kalina Christoff and her colleagues (2009) have shown that the DMN is essential for creative problem-solving because it allows the brain to make connections between seemingly unrelated ideas. When we give the brain time to wander, it can process information in a way that leads to novel insights and solutions. This is why unstructured time is so valuable for professionals—it provides the mental space necessary for creativity to flourish.
Additionally, neuroscientist Mary Helen Immordino-Yang emphasises the importance of "constructive internal reflection" for emotional and cognitive development. Her research demonstrates that unstructured time allows the brain to process complex emotions and experiences, which is essential for building empathy, emotional intelligence, and resilience (Immordino-Yang et al., 2012). Without this time, the brain becomes overwhelmed by decision fatigue, emotional overload, and a loss of innovative thinking.
The link between unstructured time and innovation unstructured time is not just about rest—it is a crucial component of innovation. When the brain is given space to integrate experiences and emotions, it becomes more adept at generating creative solutions and innovative ideas. This is why professionals who build unstructured time into their schedules often find that their productivity increases in the long term. By allowing the brain to recharge, they enhance their capacity for problem-solving, creativity, and strategic thinking.
However, in many professional environments, unstructured time is seen as unproductive. Professionals may feel guilty for taking breaks or stepping away from their work, fearing that they are not doing enough. However, as research on the DMN shows, these moments of rest are essential for maintaining cognitive flexibility and emotional well-being. Without them, professionals risk becoming trapped in a cycle of overwork that ultimately diminishes their capacity to innovate and succeed.
Savouring: A Key to Nervous System Regulation
Savouring is an underappreciated yet powerful tool for regulating the nervous system and enhancing well-being. At its core, savouring involves extending and deepening positive emotional experiences—whether from accomplishments, interactions, or simple pleasures. It is a practice that encourages mindfulness and reflection, helping individuals fully immerse themselves in moments of joy, success, or contentment.
The practice of savouring is directly linked to the activation of the parasympathetic nervous system. When we take time to savour positive experiences, we signal to our nervous system that it is safe to relax. This helps the body shift out of fight or flight mode and into a state of rest and recovery. By consciously engaging in savouring, we give the body and mind permission to let go of stress and fully embrace feelings of joy and satisfaction (Bryant & Veroff, 2006).
Fred Bryant and Joseph Veroff, in their book Savouring: A New Model of Positive Experience, explain how savouring increases well-being by amplifying positive emotions and helping individuals build emotional resilience (Bryant & Veroff, 2006). For professionals who are used to operating in high-stress environments, savouring can feel uncomfortable at first. However, by regularly practising savouring, individuals can retrain their nervous systems to accept and even seek out positive emotions, which helps counterbalance the effects of chronic stress.
For many high achievers, savouring is a difficult practice to adopt. Professionals who are accustomed to striving for the next goal or achievement often struggle to take time to reflect on their successes. This is where the concept of the hedonic treadmill becomes relevant—what once brought satisfaction quickly becomes the new norm, and the drive for more takes over (Kahneman, 2011). This cycle of constant striving leaves little room for savouring, and as a result, positive experiences are often fleeting and unappreciated.
Savouring interrupts this cycle by encouraging professionals to slow down and fully immerse themselves in moments of success or joy. Whether it’s completing a major project, achieving a personal goal, or simply enjoying a meaningful conversation, savouring allows individuals to deepen their emotional connection to these moments, making them more memorable and impactful. Over time, this practice helps retrain the nervous system to embrace positive emotions and experiences, reducing the reliance on stress as a motivator.
Practical applications of savouring can be practised in both small and large ways. After completing a significant task, take five minutes to reflect on what went well and how it felt to succeed. Engage in mindfulness by truly noticing the sensations in your body—perhaps relief, pride, or contentment. Reflect on the emotional and physical responses that accompany these positive moments. Over time, you’ll find that your body becomes more adept at shifting out of fight or flight mode and into a state of rest and digest, which is crucial for long-term well-being.
By incorporating savouring into your routine, you give your nervous system the chance to recover from the chronic activation of the fight or flight response. This practice can dramatically improve emotional regulation, creativity, and productivity by creating a balance between effort and rest, allowing the body and mind to recharge more effectively.
Human Design: Honouring Our Unique Relationship with Time and Energy
One of the keys to balancing productivity with well-being is understanding how you are designed to use your energy. Human Design offers a framework for recognising how different individuals are naturally wired to manage their time and energy. Each of the four main energy types—Generators, Manifesting Generators, Projectors, and Reflectors—has distinct needs when it comes to balancing work, rest, and spontaneity.
Generators and Manifesting Generators: Thriving on Response Generators and Manifesting Generators make up the majority of the population and are designed to respond to life, not initiate. Their energy is self-sustaining when they are engaged in work that excites them. This capacity for sustained effort makes them highly productive when they are aligned with their interests. However, when Generators and Manifesting Generators try to initiate or force outcomes, they quickly deplete their energy and fall into cycles of frustration and burnout. The strategy for Generators is "waiting to respond," which means allowing opportunities to come to them rather than constantly seeking new tasks to fill their time. This approach may seem counterproductive in a culture that values hustle and proactive ambition, but it ensures that Generators are working with their natural energy rhythms. When aligned, Generators can experience what is known as satisfaction, a deep sense of fulfilment and accomplishment that arises from working in harmony with their design. For Manifesting Generators, this process is slightly more nuanced because they can pivot between multiple projects and interests quickly. Their challenge is to honour both their need for variety and their need to respond, rather than initiating out of impatience or pressure. Manifesting Generators can avoid burnout by allowing spontaneity and creativity to guide them, and by recognising when their energy is best suited for multitasking versus focused effort.
Projectors: Guiding, Not Doing Projectors have a very different relationship with time and energy. They are not designed for sustained work but instead excel in short, focused bursts of guiding and leading others. Because their energy is not self-generated, Projectors need to be highly selective about how they use their time. Their strategy is to "wait for the invitation," which allows them to be recognised for their unique insights and talents before they expend energy. This strategy helps Projectors avoid the bitterness that arises when they feel unrecognised or overworked. In a world that praises hustle and continuous productivity, Projectors often feel pressure to keep up, but their true success lies in doing less and resting more. When they honour their need for downtime, they create space for their innate wisdom and guidance to emerge. Projectors can thrive when they focus on honing their expertise and waiting for the right opportunities to share it, rather than trying to initiate or control outcomes.
Manifestors: The Power of Initiation and Rest Manifestors are natural initiators, designed to start projects and set things in motion. However, unlike Generators, Manifestors do not have sustainable energy for long-term work. Their energy comes in powerful bursts, followed by periods of rest and recovery. The key for Manifestors is to follow their strategy of "informing others" before they take action. This reduces resistance from those around them and allows Manifestors to use their energy efficiently. The challenge for Manifestors is to honour their need for downtime after initiating a new project or idea. In high-pressure environments, Manifestors may feel compelled to keep going, but this leads to exhaustion and anger—their not-self theme. By allowing themselves to rest and recharge between creative bursts, Manifestors can maintain their ability to initiate and lead without burning out.
Reflectors: Aligning with the Lunar Cycle Reflectors, who represent a small percentage of the population, have a unique relationship with time. Their energy is highly influenced by the people and environments around them, and they require ample time to process their experiences. Reflectors thrive when they align with the lunar cycle, using the full 28 days to make decisions and reflect on their experiences. For Reflectors, spontaneity and unstructured time are essential for maintaining their well-being. They need flexibility and freedom to retreat from the energy of others and spend time in environments that feel nourishing. Reflectors benefit from having a schedule that allows for plenty of rest and reflection, as this helps them navigate the highs and lows of their energetic sensitivity.
By understanding your Human Design type and strategy, you can create a time management approach that feels natural and sustainable. For Generators and Manifesting Generators, this might mean building in moments of response, where you wait for opportunities rather than pushing forward with a packed schedule. For Projectors, it might involve creating space for rest and focusing on moments of deep, focused work rather than long hours. Manifestors can benefit from planning their creative bursts followed by deliberate downtime, while Reflectors can structure their time around their environment and the lunar cycle.
This alignment with your natural energy flow prevents the burnout that comes from constantly pushing yourself against your design. By following the strategies outlined in Human Design, individuals can balance productivity with well-being, ensuring that their energy is used in a way that feels satisfying and sustainable.
Journal Prompts for Reflection
These prompts are designed to guide you to reflect on your relationship with time, productivity, and well-being, helping you explore how they can implement the ideas discussed in the article in a personalised and actionable way.
How does your current relationship with time affect your sense of well-being? Reflect on whether your time management practices contribute to a feeling of balance or whether they create stress and anxiety. Are you able to find moments of peace and relaxation throughout your day, or are you constantly "on"?
What fears or anxieties arise when you think about slowing down? Consider the emotional responses you experience when faced with the idea of taking a break or resting. What beliefs do you hold about rest and productivity, and where do these beliefs come from? Do you fear that success will be sacrificed if you slow down?
When was the last time you felt truly satisfied with your work? Reflect on a recent project or task you completed. Were you able to savour the success, or did you move quickly to the next thing on your to-do list? How can you incorporate savouring more deliberately into your routine to enhance your feelings of fulfilment?
How does your nervous system respond to moments of stress or pressure? Consider how your body reacts in high-stress situations. Do you notice signs of fight or flight, such as increased heart rate, tension, or difficulty focusing? How might you begin to shift out of this state by incorporating practices like deep breathing, unstructured time, or savouring?
What would it look like to introduce more unstructured time into your day? Visualise how you could create small pockets of time for rest, reflection, or spontaneity. What activities could help you relax and recharge? How might unstructured time enhance your creativity or problem-solving abilities?
Based on your Human Design type, how can you better honour your energy needs? Reflect on your Human Design type and strategy. Are you aligning your time and energy management with your natural rhythms, or are you pushing yourself in ways that feel depleting? How might embracing your design help you achieve a more balanced and sustainable approach to work?
What practices could help you balance productivity with well-being? Think about specific actions you can take to create more balance in your life. Could it be scheduling micro-breaks, practising savouring after completing tasks, or adjusting your work habits to align with your energy type? How can you prioritise rest as a key component of success?
Conclusion: Slowing Down to Speed Up—A Path to Sustainable Success
In a world that equates productivity with worth, the fear of slowing down is real and deeply ingrained. Yet, as we have explored, the cost of this constant striving is immense. Chronic stress, functioning fight or flight, and over-productivity lead to burnout, diminished creativity, and a profound sense of disconnection from ourselves and our work.
The paradox of slowing down to speed up is rooted in both science and lived experience. Neuroscientific research shows that rest and unstructured time are essential for activating the brain’s default mode network (DMN), which is where our most innovative ideas and creative breakthroughs occur (Christoff et al., 2009). The nervous system, particularly the parasympathetic branch, thrives when given opportunities for relaxation, reflection, and savouring. Without these moments, we risk depleting our cognitive and emotional reserves, which in turn undermines our ability to sustain long-term success.
By integrating practices like savouring, unstructured time, and aligning with your Human Design, you can break free from the productivity trap and create a path to sustainable success. This isn’t about abandoning ambition or reducing your goals—far from it. It’s about achieving more in a way that feels aligned, nourishing, and fulfilling. It’s about working smarter, not harder, and honouring your nervous system’s need for balance between action and rest.
Success, redefined through this lens, is no longer about how much you can accomplish in the shortest amount of time. It’s about how you manage your energy, how you allow space for creativity and reflection, and how you honour the unique way you are designed to work. This approach ensures that your professional achievements are not only sustainable but also deeply satisfying, both in the short term and the long term.
By slowing down to speed up, you unlock a new way of being—one where success, creativity, and well-being coexist in harmony. This is not just a strategy for productivity; it is a philosophy for living a life that feels meaningful, balanced, and aligned with your deepest values.
Recommended Reading:
These books provide a well-rounded perspective on stress, productivity, nervous system regulation, and emotional well-being, aligning with the key topics discussed in the article. They are excellent resources for further exploration of how to slow down while achieving sustainable success.
Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman. This book explores the cognitive processes behind decision-making and why we often feel the need to push for more. Kahneman’s work on the hedonic treadmill and how our brains quickly adapt to success offers valuable insights into why slowing down can enhance long-term satisfaction.
Savouring: A New Model of Positive Experience by Fred B. Bryant and Joseph Veroff. This book introduces the concept of savouring and its powerful impact on emotional well-being. It provides research-backed strategies for amplifying positive emotions and creating resilience against stress, making it an excellent resource for those seeking to enhance their daily experiences.
Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers by Robert M. Sapolsky. Sapolsky’s book is a deep dive into the effects of chronic stress on the body and mind. It explains how the fight or flight response works and why our modern lives often keep us in a state of over-activation. A must-read for understanding the biological impact of stress and the importance of rest.
The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-Regulation by Stephen W. Porges. Porges' Polyvagal Theory sheds light on the critical role of the vagus nerve in regulating the nervous system. This book explains how we can move out of fight or flight mode and into states of calm, offering practical insights for achieving greater emotional regulation and well-being.
When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress by Gabor Maté. In this thought-provoking book, Gabor Maté explores the connection between chronic stress and physical illness. He emphasises the importance of recognising and addressing hidden stressors in our lives, offering a compelling argument for why slowing down is essential for both mental and physical health.
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Rosa, H. (2013). Social Acceleration: A New Theory of Modernity. Columbia University Press.
